How To Gain A Woman's Trust

From Jake Vandenhoff,

When you're doing online dating, it's very important that the women you talk to feel that you are a good guy who they can trust, and not some sketchy weirdo. Otherwise they won't feel right about meeting up with you even if you have other attractive qualities.

So, if you want to excel at online dating you need to learn how to gain a woman's trust quickly. Today I'm going to show you a simple formula for building trust that will save you a ton of time and effort.

This technique is very effectively, so before we go on there's something I must make abundantly clear. I'm sure that YOU are already clear on this, but just in case anyone is confused... Never ever use this formula for evil, and never take advantage of a woman's trust!

Okay, Lets proceed...

The way you get a woman to trust you is by showing her your own vulnerability.

This shows her that you're a real person, and that you're going to be honest with her about who you are. It's the opposite of bragging, which as we all know comes off as very inauthentic.

So, let her in on a couple of your fears, concerns, problems or weaknesses. By doing this, not only are you being honest, but you are coming across as GENUINE.

And all people, male and female, trust in what we perceive to be genuine or AUTHENTIC.
Now obviously you don't want to go overboard telling a girl all kinds of bad stuff about yourself. Just mention small quirky things about yourself. Maybe you just put on 20 lbs. and you're feeling a little fat, or maybe you just finished grad school and you're concerned that you picked the wrong career.

Everyone has several small flaws to pick from, so it should be easy to find a couple good ones. I for example have a uni-brow that I need to trim all the time, I'm going bald, and I have bad skin, so I've got three insecurities right there.

Now what happens after you've exposed your minor vulnerability to your girl is really, really cool. Chances are she's gonna tell you that your flaw isn't a bad thing and that she has similar issues. (I can't count how many girls I've told that I wished I could grow some hair, only to have them caress my dome and tell me how sexy my bald head is)

Then you can listen and be supportive while she talks about her vulnerabilities. Talk like this bonds the two of you and quickly builds trust.

Now in order to make this formula work effectively, you need to know when and how to utilize it.

How to use: The key to telling girls about your flaws is to do it in a natural authentic way... Saying, "I have bad skin and I feel really vulnerable about it... hold me," sounds fake and contrived. Instead say, "Yeah this zit on the tip of my nose is driving me freaking crazy, They always told me I'd outgrow my acne, y'know! What's up with that?"

Don't make it sound like a sympathy plea. Let it come out naturally. In some cases you can wait until the girl discloses a vulnerability first, and then tell her that you deal with the same thing.

When to use: Avoid talking about your flaws in the body of your online dating profile. That's just too much self disclosure too soon. And remember, part of what creates the bond of trust between you and your girl is that you're sharing these vulnerabilities with her alone, not with everybody who reads your profile.

Instead, wait till you get her sending you emails, and even then, start small. For example, you could start by telling her that you're waiting to get your results from the bar exam and you're pretty sure you failed. Then later when you're on your date you can break out the big guns, like telling her how your big sisters called you bubbles because you used to fart in the bathtub.

It doesn't matter how attractive women find you, if they don't trust you they'll slam on the breaks. So be sure to use this formula to build trust and make women feel comfortable doing what they already want to do... YOU!