How To Gain A Woman's Trust

From Jake Vandenhoff,

When you're doing online dating, it's very important that the women you talk to feel that you are a good guy who they can trust, and not some sketchy weirdo. Otherwise they won't feel right about meeting up with you even if you have other attractive qualities.

So, if you want to excel at online dating you need to learn how to gain a woman's trust quickly. Today I'm going to show you a simple formula for building trust that will save you a ton of time and effort.

This technique is very effectively, so before we go on there's something I must make abundantly clear. I'm sure that YOU are already clear on this, but just in case anyone is confused... Never ever use this formula for evil, and never take advantage of a woman's trust!

Okay, Lets proceed...

The way you get a woman to trust you is by showing her your own vulnerability.

This shows her that you're a real person, and that you're going to be honest with her about who you are. It's the opposite of bragging, which as we all know comes off as very inauthentic.

So, let her in on a couple of your fears, concerns, problems or weaknesses. By doing this, not only are you being honest, but you are coming across as GENUINE.

And all people, male and female, trust in what we perceive to be genuine or AUTHENTIC.
Now obviously you don't want to go overboard telling a girl all kinds of bad stuff about yourself. Just mention small quirky things about yourself. Maybe you just put on 20 lbs. and you're feeling a little fat, or maybe you just finished grad school and you're concerned that you picked the wrong career.

Everyone has several small flaws to pick from, so it should be easy to find a couple good ones. I for example have a uni-brow that I need to trim all the time, I'm going bald, and I have bad skin, so I've got three insecurities right there.

Now what happens after you've exposed your minor vulnerability to your girl is really, really cool. Chances are she's gonna tell you that your flaw isn't a bad thing and that she has similar issues. (I can't count how many girls I've told that I wished I could grow some hair, only to have them caress my dome and tell me how sexy my bald head is)

Then you can listen and be supportive while she talks about her vulnerabilities. Talk like this bonds the two of you and quickly builds trust.

Now in order to make this formula work effectively, you need to know when and how to utilize it.

How to use: The key to telling girls about your flaws is to do it in a natural authentic way... Saying, "I have bad skin and I feel really vulnerable about it... hold me," sounds fake and contrived. Instead say, "Yeah this zit on the tip of my nose is driving me freaking crazy, They always told me I'd outgrow my acne, y'know! What's up with that?"

Don't make it sound like a sympathy plea. Let it come out naturally. In some cases you can wait until the girl discloses a vulnerability first, and then tell her that you deal with the same thing.

When to use: Avoid talking about your flaws in the body of your online dating profile. That's just too much self disclosure too soon. And remember, part of what creates the bond of trust between you and your girl is that you're sharing these vulnerabilities with her alone, not with everybody who reads your profile.

Instead, wait till you get her sending you emails, and even then, start small. For example, you could start by telling her that you're waiting to get your results from the bar exam and you're pretty sure you failed. Then later when you're on your date you can break out the big guns, like telling her how your big sisters called you bubbles because you used to fart in the bathtub.

It doesn't matter how attractive women find you, if they don't trust you they'll slam on the breaks. So be sure to use this formula to build trust and make women feel comfortable doing what they already want to do... YOU!

What Women Do Not Want

From Daryl Chamber,

"On online dates, women are much, much more disappointed than men. Women put more stock in the virtual dating world because they seek a soul mate, whereas men are typically after a more casual relationship."

That's according to Michael Norton formally of the Harvard Business School. A couple of years ago Norton along with two of his colleagues conducted a study and came to a number of conclusions.

As he tells Jeanna Bryant of Live Science, "Because people so much want to find somebody, we find that they read into the profile. They kind of see that person as a good match for them, and that they have a lot in common. And when they finally meet in person, they find out it's just a regular person like everybody else. They end up being disappointed again."

There are other reasons why women turn out to be disappointed which should not be overlooked

1. Pride Out Of Control

Women love men that exude self confidence. They do not like men that are full of themselves. Yet they meet plenty of those types when it comes o online dating. Any give and take conversation inevitably works its way back to the center of the universe; namely him. She should be honored he deems her worthy to chat with him.

2. Quiet and Proud Of It

Offline or on communication ranks as one thing women feel is essential to a relationship. So trying to get some conversation going with a guy who fancies himself the strong silent type is a frustrating experience for many women. She's sharing and more than willing to do so. He is not which in the final analysis is not going to work.

3. Another Notch In Your Belt

Women are very good at telling when a guy is on the make. When they meet someone online who starts the sexy talk almost immediately she knows he is not looking to build a relationship. He's looking for a conquest.

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Pick Up Women on the Internet the Easy Way

From Cam Langdon,

Picking up women on the Internet through online dating services is as easy as falling off a log. All you have to do is climb up on the log in the first place.

Of all the online dating tips for men that have been espoused by Internet dating gurus and experts over the last few years, few have addressed the fundamental issue of why men delay the actual process of starting their Internet love-lives.

In fact, the initial stimulus for a man to contemplate online dating as a means of meeting women is often the number one hurdle to dating success. In other words, guys read volumes of online dating tips for men, and all kinds of advice on dating in general, but they never actually get around to signing up with an online dating website to get the ball rolling.

What these procrastinating men need to realize is that online dating is now such a normal part of everyday society. Millions of men and women are now using this forum to pick up members of the opposite sex in larger numbers than ever before.

Unfortunately, these will-I-or-won't-I guys are probably hanging out with men who have found their own women in traditional arenas – bars, parties, etc. These so-called friends mock online dating as a venue for losers who cannot make it in the real world.

However, men can take heart from some encouraging statistics that show more and more relationships between men and women – be it for long-term arrangements leading to marriage, or just flings and casual sex between consenting, mature adults – have much better chances of succeeding than those formed offline.

Why is this so?

Research into specialist articles and studies focusing on online dating tips for men have shown that guys using the Internet to meet women have quite often been through the mill before. They may have experienced long-term relationships that have ended bitterly. Usually a nasty and expensive divorce with the wife taking everything.

Now, these men have endured some relationship pain, no doubt. However, they remain men with male sexual needs and a desire for female company. As long as they haven't written off all women as evil creatures, they will very often turn to the Internet to try their hand at online dating.

Again, why?

The answer is amazingly simple: men have the chance to carefully peruse and browse many thousands of female profiles before they take the big step of asking a woman out on a date. They are under absolutely zero outside pressure. These men make every decision about whom to date themselves – without advice from well-meaning friends and relatives.

How often have people hooked up and formed long-term relationships or even gotten married because they found themselves in social or family situations that they didn't have the nerve to back out of? Plenty, that's how many.

But, with the widespread acceptance of the Internet and online dating as an industry – and also as a lifestyle – men can meet women much more easily than they could in the past.

After all, what could be easier than sitting in the privacy of your own home, clicking links and browsing profiles of compatible women waiting for the right guy to make his approach. It's simpler than summoning up courage in the "real" world to approach a woman in a bar, for instance. At its most fundamental – women who use online dating sites are there for one reason and one reason only: to meet men.

Gentlemen, the time to act is now.

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Why You Can't Approach Women Online With Cheap Lines

From Chris Tyler,

If you have any female friends who have accounts on social networking sites like Facebook or on any one of the many dating sites that are available online, then I'm sure you've probably heard some pretty funny stories about the lengths some men go to in order to try and get a hook up or a date.

And if they have pictures up and allow comments, then I'm sure you have seen that almost every guy who makes a comment pretty much says the same thing. If that is the way that you approach online dating and you expect to get some pretty phenomenal results, you are probably going to be pretty disappointed.

You can't use cheap lines and generic compliments if you are going to do well attracting women online. You shouldn't even be trying that out in real life, but that's another story.

Why can't you approach women online with a cheap line?

Because they have time to sit back and take it in without anything else guiding their feelings and their thoughts. After all, it is just words on a screen. So, while you may be able to make a woman laugh using your body language or facial expressions delivering a cheap line in a club, you don't really have that luxury when you are just putting words up on a screen.

One of the most important things that any guy can do in any situation where he wants to make a good impression on a woman and get a date out of it, is to stand out in some way. Do yourself a favor sometime and go to the profile of one of the prettiest women you know and take a look at what most guys leave as a comment on their pictures. It should be pretty clear that almost every guy is saying the same thing and hoping that it makes them stand out in some way.

Of course, it doesn't.

You can't approach a woman online with a cheap line because you want to be a little more creative than most. Before you do that, though, you also want to gain a little rapport with her. So, instead of doing the generic compliment or the cheap line... think of something creative or humorous to break the ice with her. Get her talking back and forth so that it's not just you sending her compliment after compliment.

Once you have a decent amount of rapport going with her, once you have made her laugh a little, then you can send her a compliment. By doing it that way, it will take on a different meaning. Instead of being just another bloke with a comment like, "Wow you look good," you will be a guy who she wants to hear a compliment from and it will mean more. Just don't over do it at that point.

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Men, Do Not Beg Online, Rather Offer Value

From Frank N Fr,

You know the phrase, beggars can't be choosers?

It dates back over 450 years and it's as true today as it was back then.

And it is ESPECIALLY TRUE for online dating – for men.

Attractive women receive volleys of emails from guys – and if your initial letter or your profile has even a WHIFF of begging  – or attention, for approval or for a date, — you are sunk.

As well you should be.

In everything I write, I show you how to reframe your thoughts, your communications, your actions and your body language to demonstrate that you are not "needy" but rather the SOURCE OF VALUE.

The "energy" that you give off – in your words, actions and body – should be solidly in the camp of radiating value outward… and not hoping to bring energy inward.

You must reverse the power balance online that attractive women feel – by employing very specific POWER REVERSAL TECHNIQUES.

Let me give you an example of what I mean, by turning neediness into offering…

BEGGING EXAMPLE #1:  NEED VS OFFERING

One guy opens his profile:

"I have moved to North Hollywood. I'm searching

for something.. I'm just not sure what or where…

Happiness is on the top of my list"

He is saying, basically, I AM NOT HAPPY.

While that is very honest, a virtue in Los Angeles, he is communicating, "I AM INCOMPLETE, I NEED COMPLETION. SOMEBODY HELP ME"  This is a subtle begging for a female savior.  Most women prefer men who aren't searching for happiness, but rather, create it by choice…

Compare this profile opening…

"A true rebel to the end, I'm steeped in equal
parts of earth and heaven. I navigate the stars
and make it work here on the ground. Add in:
high intellectualism, strategic problem solving,
trail running, Maori warrior chanting at breakfast,
compassion, a deep love for humanity, and
occasional shamanic healings for street people.
I enjoy creating culture through art and music
events as well as making some myself…Socially
I'm very easy to get to know, and I love meeting
people, but it still will take a special lady to match
this catch. I'm super playful. Characters welcome…
I am a true artist with strong loving arms to cradle
you."

"A true rebel to the end, I'm steeped in equal

parts of earth and heaven. I navigate the stars

and make it work here on the ground. Add in:

high intellectualism, strategic problem solving,

trail running, Maori warrior chanting at breakfast,

compassion, a deep love for humanity, and

occasional shamanic healings for street people.

I enjoy creating culture through art and music

events as well as making some myself…Socially

I'm very easy to get to know, and I love meeting

people, but it still will take a special lady to match

this catch. I'm super playful. Characters welcome…

I am a true artist with strong loving arms to cradle

you."

This isn't a man who needs a woman to complete him.  He's not begging.  He's CHALLENGING HER.

Look at all the active verbs:  he NAVIGATES, he SOLVES he LOVES while asking for nothing in return, he HEALS street people (ok, I don't know what that even means, but still, he's radiating value OUTWARD to others without asking for anything in return), and he challenges her to be worthy of him and – smart guy – offers strong arms to cradle her.

He is even REWARDING.

He has no need in his profile – only offering.  Offering of strength, of love, or tenderness, of strength.

How can you REVERSE the power in your profile so that a woman does not feel like you are begging for help or completion, but rather OFFERING value as a man?  Not as a way to win women, but, as this writer did, as your natural state of being.

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How To Meet Up With A Woman WITHOUT Calling Her

From Christope Y,

Did you know there's a way to meet up with women from the Internet, without even talking to them on the phone?

It's true!

Times have really changed and with that; how you communicate with women has changed.

Remember the old days when everyone mostly spoke on land lines and texting hadn't really become popular yet?

Sure you do! When it comes to meeting women online... here's how it usually went:

• You email a woman who you really dig on an online dating site.
• Hopefully she emails you back, then you start a dialogue back and forth via emails. This could last a few days to a few weeks.
• At some point, it's time to get her phone number so you ask for it. She gives it to you and then you agonize on when to call her and dread having to leave a message on her "machine."

Remember those days? Sure you do!

Everyone had an answering machine and most women would never answer their phone putting pressure on you to come up with a "clever" or "funny" message to leave on her machine.

Well, those days are LONG GONE!

And isn't that a relief!

Instead of answering machines women have voice-mail associated with their cell phones.

"Well, don't I have to leave a message on her voice-mail?" You may be asking.

No, and the reason is because you're NOT going to be calling her on the phone at all!

How is that possible?

One word: TEXTING!

What a wonderful invention it is!! Ever since texting became the norm a few years back, talking on the phone became a thing of the past!

I don't know about you but I very much dislike talking to women on the phone because, in some cases, it would go on for hours!

Now I don't even worry about that because all I do is text them, saving me hours and hours of needless chatter on the phone.

It's a great thing!

Texting has totally changed the game!

Now the script goes a little like this:

• You email a woman online.
• She emails you back and you exchange a couple more messages.
• Then you send her your standard "get the number" email and she immediately gives it to you.
• From that point on you have moved things to text and then you start building more attraction using texts. This REALLY gets her going and wanting to meet you!
• Finally, you agree on a time and place to meet up via text and then you've already sealed the deal!

She will almost NEVER say no because you're highly skilled in the art of "text flirting" which has her dying to meet you!

That's how it is now!

I can't even remember the last time I spoke with a woman on the phone prior to meeting up with her in person. It simply doesn't happen anymore!

No more leaving stupid messages on her machine!

No more having to practice a script and recite it just in case she does answer the phone!

Now I can take my time and come up with awesome texts that build rock solid attraction! I'm telling you, this has dramatically changed Online Dating and my success rate has gone through the roof!

So if you're still chatting with women on the phone, my question to you is simply... why?

You don't have to and you shouldn't even be calling her!

There's a better way and I suggest you learn how to do it.

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Online Dating Tips For Single Women - Don't Reveal Too Much About Yourself

From Alexandra Scott,

Single women seem to be finding themselves joining online dating sites now more than ever. 

 Because of this, there are some online dating tips for single women that you might want to become aware of.

You probably will feel a little rush of excitement when you first sign up for an online dating site and you will want to get started right away building your online dating profile. This is a natural way to feel, as you are eager and filled with anticipation about meeting the RIGHT guy.

You just always want to remember that you don't want to reveal TOO much about yourself.

This is important for two reasons. The first one of course, is for your personal security. Putting yourself out there to meet someone is a good step if you want to attract a man that you can fall in love with. However, if you reveal too much about yourself, it's out there for anyone to see, really.

So, when you build your profile and you are trying to think of things that you can say about yourself, keep a filter on what you are willing to reveal to a perfect stranger.

The second reason for why this is important, is because you want to ATTRACT and INTRIGUE a man, not give him your whole life story right up front. If you DO reveal too much about yourself before you even get talking with a guy, then where is the incentive for him to want to get to know more about you?

When you are signing up for an online dating site, you have to keep your wits about you for both your safety, and for doing the RIGHT things to attract a man and make him want to meet you and get to know more about you.

After all, an online dating site is just a new medium to meet someone, not a replacement for two people getting to know each other.

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When You Are About To Give Up!

From Anthony Matthews,

So maybe you have been trying online dating services for a long time with no success? This is actually a common story with many online dater's.

Many people will sign up, browse the profiles, set up their own profile, and wait. Some are more active than that, but still have not found their true love or even a casual conversation.

The following are some online dating tips that should help you increase your odds of finding your soulmate.

1) You must have an up close and clear photograph. The truth is that most people's first point of interest in another is based on looks. If you post a photo that is at such a distance where you can't see the face clearly then people browsing your profile will either wonder why, or simply move on to the next person. Make sure to use a flattering closeup shot of yourself.

2) You might be providing too many details or information that can be misinterpreted. With internet dating, sometimes people will make quick judgement calls based on even a few simple words that you write in your headline or profile. Don't spill your guts all at once as you may scare off potential dater's. Save some details and provide mystery for the upcoming dates. Don't over think what you will write, but also be aware of what you are writing and why. Unfortunately, people reading your profile can only see your words and not necessarily the expression on your face, which sometimes leads to misinterpretation and confusion by the person reading.

3) It's possible that your profile is simply boring and you need to spice it up a bit. Think of your profile as a sort of job resume, except the person doing the hiring is looking for love. You need to do something to catch the interest of them from the hundreds and thousands of other online profiles. You only have a short amount of time to catch and keep their interest. Be witty, but not silly or offensive. Basically just be yourself but try not to sound like all the other profiles out there. Focus on and try to make your best features stand out.

4) On the flip side, maybe you are being to judgmental or choosy. While we all have our preferences, likes, and dislikes, you can't expect to find the perfect person. Are you a perfect person? Also, remember that just because you may find someone you like does not mean they are going to be interested in you. So, maintain your standards but loosen up on the expectations of finding an absolute perfect match. You just might be missing out on an awesome partner because they didn't meet 10 out of 10 points on your list of standards.

5) Maybe you should try another dating site. There are dozens to choose from if you feel you would like to try your luck somewhere else. There are also many niche dating websites available if you are looking for a mate with a certain trait or common interest. You can join many specialty dating sites which specifically target people of the same race, ethnic background, age, religion, and hobbies.

If you aren't finding success with your online dating service, reevaluate what you have been doing and try to implement some of these ideas. I'm sure by using these online dating tips you will be sure to improve your chances of making that special connection you've been dreaming of.

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Online Dating Tips to Help You Increase Your Chances Of Finding Love - What to Do And What Not to Do

From Addison Prescott,

Online dating tips to help you to find love on the internet is a fast way to get results while learning the proper guidelines of net ettiquette. Certain things like being prepared and etiquette can keep you safe and make a much better experience out of it. Not to mention it may land you the romance of a lifetime.

One of the first things that catches the attention of dating online is the speed in which you are able to catch someone's attention or vice verse. In that same vein though it is very quick to be misinterpreted or misunderstood. Therein lies some trouble too.

So here are some of the top, most 'strongly' emphasized suggestions that will help you in this process.

Number one is probably the most important. It is being honest when it comes to posting your profile. In fact dating online is only good or will only work for you if you are honest. Completely honest there is no room for being inventive. This is what gets people into trouble. The only way to make the best of internet dating is to be true to your self, for Yourself.

You will want it to begin on an honest note. It will be worth it in the long run. Otherwise you will have a lie between you, that will only cause trouble. You may or may not hook up, but if you do and you end up spending the rest of your life together; you will not want it to begin with a lie. You will want it to begin on an honest note.

Being dishonest is not at all recommended for more reasons than one can fathom. If you are dishonest and show a 25 or 35 year-old high-school picture then when you actually meet the person, they will never want to see you again.

You may end up getting profiled by the sites ranking system as a 'don't go there' reference by getting a poor rating form the person you met up with.

Word gets around really fast. They will tell their friends who are also on the site and word will get around. This can sabotage you indefinitely. At least from that site. Many who have gone this route end up wondering why they never get anymore responses.

Number two is posting the proper picture. When it comes time to post a picture in your profile make sure you post a recent picture. A picture more than a year old will not do. Show them who you are for real and you will actually get a more positive response then you anticipate. People always underestimate themselves when it comes to their ability to attract others.

Never post a picture of yourself with another person of the opposite sex in an obvious "Together" picture. This is just not recommended as it sends a very wrong kind of message.

Embellishing your profile is a not a good idea. Where you describe yourself, things are a little tempting to stretch the truth. Do not do it. You will want to try to present yourself as you would want to see yourself. Look at it this way by being honest you can also stand out from the crowd.

Just be confident and let your integrity present itself naturally. Do not force it or it will not appear Real which is noble in the online world. In fact it will appear just the opposite.

Sharing too much. Never include too many details of your personal or professional life.  Like where you work and live, your day-To-day schedule or anything that may be compromising your safety. Keep in mind this is public information although it may be on 'a site' it can still be hacked or mistakenly become a security risk.

Always always follow the rule of 'better safe than sorry' when it comes to divulging too much information about what you might think of others or how you see things. The best way to do this is to just go out of your way to be sensitive. I call it being Ultra-sensitive, but its worth it. It will help you to avoid some seriously unwanted pitfalls.

Take Extra care with some of the responses you post and comments you leave. Try to make double sure it cannot be taken the wrong way and used against you and your public profile. It might seem private because of the intimacy and the atmosphere of just you and your computer, but once its out there, its out there forever. Some people just troll these sites for opportunities like these in order to anonymously smear anyone they can.

Try to understand that online dating is immediate and the process has the potential to be permanent. So keeping these tips in mind when dating online can really help you to avoid making an eternal blunder that you just cannot seem to get away from. Unfortunately the details of the almost endless amount helpful tips are more than can be handled in one article.

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Honest Online Dating Tips for Men Over 40

From Festus Kopi,

This article will give you some honest dating tips for men over 40. If you are a man and you are looking for a new relationship because your ex dump you for someone else or you are looking for a partner that will be there to share the joys and sorrows of life together, you will find responsible and God-fearing female partners online.

You may be surprised to know that there are hundreds of God-fearing and responsible girls and women online looking for the right man to hook up with for true love and romance. You will be able to find beautiful girls online between the ages of 25 to 35 looking for a man just like you.

If you are ready to meet beautiful girls online right this moment and you are shy to approach anyone face to face, you can go online and register with a reputable and trustworthy dating and matchmaking site. Here you will find plenty of beautiful girls to choose from.

One of the honest online dating tips for men over 40 that will always work in your favor is never to lie about your age when dating a woman online for the very first time. Do not be tempted to lie about your age or try to say you are younger when you are not. You will always find the one that is right for you no matter your age.

Ensure you upload and update your profile photograph. I know you may be shy to put up your photograph because your colleagues and friends may be surprise you are going online to find your dream woman. Nevertheless, when they know you have been disappointed by a woman you showered so much love on, they will understand your feelings and even encourage you the more.

After you have completed the registration process and your profile is in good order, you can do a search for girls that best fit your specified criteria. The more specific your search criteria, the better your chances of getting the results you will be happy with.

Another honest online dating tip for men over 40 requires you to be patient while communicating with girls online. Do not be in a haste to get all information about a girl from just a single email or chat. Patience is golden. If she is the right one for you, she will be there waiting for you as long as you display some sense of maturity and responsibility.

You will blow your chances of connecting with the right girl if you desperately ask her about her age. Chances are, she will lie about her age just to keep you interested or she may be put off outright. Asking the girl you want to date online about her age is usually considered rude and improper. At the appropriate time, she will reveal all to you.

When you finally do find your dream girl and you agree to meet up, ensure you meet her somewhere interesting and memorable like a local monument or a new book shop. At this time, do not make the mistake of meeting in a local hotel as this will sabotage your chances of winning her love. She will assume you are branding her for a local prostitute. This is one of the honest online dating tips for men over 40 that you must not ignore.

Never accede to her demand to send money for one problem or the other. Ensure you get to know her very well before you decide to part with money. Be helpful with useful advice that will be beneficial to her.

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Online Dating Tips for Baby Boomers and Over 50s Daters

From Jo Dinnison,

Finding a date as a baby boomer need not be a daunting task. Research shows that baby boomers, born between 1946 and 1964 are far more tech-savvy than perceived by the wider community.  According to eMarketer, 47% of baby boomers have a profile on at least one social networking site so the leap to joining an online dating is not as great as we might imagine.

Baby boomers are joining online dating sites in unprecedented numbers; however there are still obstacles to them joining such a site.  Feedback from baby boomer online daters indicates that they were initially reluctant to join an online dating site due to their fear of the unknown. Other social networking sites link them to people they already know; family and friends or old schoolmates, however joining an online dating site is like entering a whole new, unfamiliar world.

Join a specialised dating site

To make your online dating experience more comfortable, it is a good idea to join a dating site that caters specifically for your age range. Unless you are interested in competing with all age groups on a general dating site,  you should stick to a site which has been designed with you in mind and can connect you more quickly with other-like minded members. It might be nice to imagine yourself with someone half your age, but it pays to be realistic and if so you are more likely to meet someone who understands your age and stage in life on a site designed just for you.

Get more hits by following these profile writing tips

Online dating is a new world for a lot of people and they are unsure how to begin. By following the simple tips below you will create a profile that will attract more interest and provide more opportunities to connect with other members.

• Check your spelling and grammar: poor grammar, spelling and punctuation make your profile hard to read and the potential love of your life could go AWOL at the sight of a poorly written profile. Use a spell checker or a trusted friend to check your writing
• Don't write too much or too little: as far as length is concerned, don't overwrite your profile; readers don't need or want your life story, just some interesting points to get the conversation started
• Be honest: your description needs to give insight into who you really are, not who you want or could be. Do you have children? They'll be a little hard to hide if you decide to meet later...
• Be positive:focus on the positives, nobody wants to read a list of negatives. Keep references to the ex out too
• Be up front: include your expectations of what you are looking for as this will avoid wasting your time and theirs
• Add a photo: a picture tells a thousand words and connecting is easier when there is a face to put to the name. Unless you're planning on never meeting in real life, display a photo of the real you: studio shots and fuzzy lighting may be flattering but don't really convey who you are.

A final word of warning

Before you join a dating site, do some research – there are lots of unscrupulous operators preying on relatively inexperienced users. Reputable sites will present transparent information about who is behind the company and their track record in the industry. If you come across a site you are interested in joining, do a search on the site's name to see what others are saying about it – another user's feedback is a great way to gain an understanding of the site's reputation.

Just do it!

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Safe Online Dating Tips

From Julie Hanson,

Anyone who might be in search for Mr. or Ms. Right need not look any further, because there are more unconventional means to meet a potential partner. One of them is through online dating.

With the proliferation of websites that aim to connect two individuals with the same interests, hobbies and goals it is not impossible to find the right man or woman for you in no time.

Of course, like any transactions in the world wide web, you must also take the necessary precautions in order to avoid any unfavourable experiences. Here are some online dating tips that will guarantee you a safe dating journey:

Tip #1 – Create a separate email address solely dedicated for the purpose of dating online. 

First of all, by doing this, it will be easier to manage and sort through emails as well as reply to the people whom you are trying to get to know. It is also safer to use this particular email address when opening a new account through a website dating service. This way, you are not endangering any personal information or communication that may be put at risk or compromised when you meet people online.

Tip #2 – Ask questions. 

Not only will this help you get to know the person more and to see if you share the same interests, but this also helps you test the person's consistency. Try to analyze his or her answers and make sure you take mental notes in order to see the reliability and credibility of this person.

Tip #3- Try the paid dating websites. 

Although there might be some dating websites for free, the paid sites usually have a more intensive matchmaking capability compared to free sites. The good thing about these paid dating websites is that they have professionals that maintain their websites and develop matchmaking programs that will not waste your time in finding the right person. Consider this as an investment on your part.

Tip #4 – Do not give personal information right away. 

It is best you save this at a later date when you have gotten to know the person a bit more. It would help to ask for a lot of pictures or you can chat with your webcams on to make sure that you know the face you are talking to. Be careful in the information you give out and make sure that you don't reveal too much too soon.

Tip #5 – Let a friend know of your online dating experience. 

It would be best to have somebody to confide in so that they can also give you advice and counsel as well as an unbiased view of the whole situation. Not only does a confidant keep you level-headed especially when it comes to these matters, but it also helps for someone else to be aware of who you're communicating with in case the other person turns out to be a bad person.

These safety online dating tips will definitely help you find the right one without sacrificing your personal security.

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Tips For Women to Successfully Flirt Online

From Brent Mc Donald,

Flirting in real life is hard for many women and men, but there is an easier way. Online flirting is the way for anyone who is shy and does not want to flirt in public. They can flirt in private without ever having to be seen (if they do not want to). Online flirting is the big stage before a relationship either goes over into a real world relationship or before it turns into an online relationship

Flirting is what generally is used to get known to somebody and then later, of course, to arouse somebody. To be able to flirt successfully online and either get a relationship started or keep the relationship going, there are several tips that can be useful.

First of all, women need to know that even though flirting partners cannot see each other, anything that goes on online can hurt another person's feelings if it is not done right. Of course, it is easier to flirt online. Identities are hidden and anyone can be anybody he or she wants to. Essentially, online flirting can be as much as a person wants it to be or as little. If the relationship never gets transferred into the real world, a person can have any identity (or as in some online worlds called avatar) that he or she wishes.

Before getting started with the online dating, a woman needs to know what she wants to get out of the relationship. Whether it is some sweet talk, some heavy-duty talk or a real world relationship, it makes all the difference in online flirting. A real world relationship should never be built on lies.

Therefore, if a woman plans on finding a partner for life, truth is an important factor. On the other hand, if she only plans to have an online relationship, some facts can be twisted to make oneself the perfect partner for an online flirt

Some women prefer to be younger than they actually are, but in the real world this is quite difficult. While online, you can be almost any age you want. Height and weight can be different online than it is in real life to sound more sexy and interesting and attract more flirting partners. With that said, it is also important to say that when changing facts online, a real world relationship might not happen. Nobody wants to get something different than they desired, especially not in a relationship.

Another important tip for women for successful online flirting is that they can set the pace and they can ask and tell the guy or girl, what they really want. Sweet words or dirty words, whatever is preferred, a woman needs to know what exactly she wants from her flirt. Many men might want to hear good visual descriptions of what the woman is doing or wearing, and a woman needs to know ahead of time, what she really is up for.

If the woman does not want to describe sexy moves or get to deep into the subject, she needs to carefully choose her partner.

Lastly, it is always important to be on the lookout. Some men just want to take advantage of women and will use any way they can. Fraud is just as real online as it is in the real world. Sometimes it might not be fraud. Abuse can actually also happen online.

Even though one hopes that it never happens, it can happen. Choosing online flirt partners carefully is one way to prevent online fraud and abuse.

Flirting should be fun for all participants and these tips should help women to be successful with their online date, as long as they keep in mind what the ultimate goal is they want from their relationship.

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10 Tips To Find The Partner Of Your Dreams

From Eran Malloch,


If you've been looking for the Partner of your Dreams, here's 10 tips to guide you to a successful outcome - the love of your life!

1) Write it down.

This might sound crazy, but before you can find the partner of your dreams, you need to define WHAT that partner is. By this, I mean a comprehensive description of the traits you want them to have, the basics of the look, types of interests, hobbies, etc.

It's a known fact that to achieve your goals, you first need to define them clearly AND write them down. Goal setting coaches have been saying this for 50+ years. So, why should it be any different when it comes to finding your dream partner.

As to WHY you should write down the details - simple really. It helps you focus on what you are looking for, and whenever you encounter a prospective partner, but you're just not 100% sure about whether they are right for you or not, you just grab your "list" and see where they match up and where they don't.

2) Be realistic.

This one is perhaps one of the toughest ones to deal with when looking for a dream partner. We all have these pre-conceptions of what kind of partner we would like (ie. rich, movie star attractive, no baggage, etc), but we also have to keep in mind 2 things.

Firstly, NO ONE is perfect. Absolutely no one! So, if your expectations are that your partner will be perfect, then you might as well quit looking now, because you are only going to end up being disappointed. On the other hand, someone could be perfect for YOU - and there's a big difference between the two.

The second thing to keep in mind is that just because you have met someone perfect for YOU, does not mean to say they think you are perfect for them!

You'll also have to deal with this issue, and quickly, because otherwise things are going to get nasty real quick.

For example (extreme example, admittedly), let's say you are a 62 year old man or woman who is unhealthy, unfit, a smoker, heavy drinker & financially not well off. Now, you might WISH to land yourself a gorgeous 22 year old hottie who will fulfil all your fantasies, but let's be honest. The chances of that happening are extra-ordinarily low to non-existent. You just are NOT a good fit for the hottie, so you need to be (somewhat) realistic.

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3) Have a Positive expectation.

After point number 2 (be realistic), you might have just decided to give up and never try again. Well, that leads us on to #3, which is that you ALSO have to be positive about finding someone.

If you are out there "on the market" long enough, and actively looking (rather than staying home and watching TV and waiting for your perfect match to walk in off the street and knock on your door), you will EVENTUALLY meet some great people, some of whom will be good possibilities.

In my case, after my separation (and subsequent divorce) in 2002, I eventually got back into the dating scene, but didn't have much luck for at least 6 months. Every time I met someone, it didn't seem to go well, and I nearly gave up SOOOOOO many times.
 However, over time, I did manage to meet some nice ladies, and eventually (about 2 years down the track), I met someone wonderful, and we did end up falling in love. She was a new person who just happened to be right for me, and it would never have happened if I had given up after the first disastrous couple of dates.

There's a classic cliche that is SO TRUE, that it bears repeating here:

You get what you expect!

In other words, if you expect to meet the partner of your dreams and develop a great relationship with them, then that's what will eventually happen. On the other hand, if you don't expect to meet your dream partner and end up together, then that's what will happen. It's your choice - which is fabulous news IF you understood what I just said.

4) Clean Up Your Act.

In order for you to be the person that your dream partner is looking for, you first need to be the best you that you can be.

This means that you might need to do some work on yourself. Are you as fit, healthy and looking the best you can? If not, then are you prepared to work on it? Do you dress nicely, and make sure your hair looks good, your teeth are cleaned and even gargle with mouthwash - 'cause NOBODY wants to date halitosis-breath!

No one is perfect physically. Heck, I should know. I'm overweight and could certainly stand to lose quite a few pounds/kilos, BUT, when I'm out there dating, I dress neatly, always shower, shave, do my teeth & even splash on a small amount of quality cologne (my poison of choice is Ralph Lauren's Romance Silver), just to make sure I present myself in the best possible light.

Nothing turns off a potential partner quite like you turning up looking scruffy, wearing un-ironed clothes, and not having made an effort. You don't need to go out and buy lots of expensive clothes to do this either. I tend to shop at KMart or Target for most of my clothes because I'm not a name-brand clothes shopper, and they ain't fancy...BUT the prices are good and the clothes are usually nice. If you've got no fashion sense, bribe a friend who has some to come with you and help you choose one or two nice outfits.

5) Get Out There and Meet People.

The most amusing thing I have noticed about people wanting to find a partner, but who haven't, is that they usually stay home and never go out to meet new people. Your dream date aint gonna come knocking on your door one evening and beg you to come out on a date with them, so get up off the sofa, clean yourself up and go out and MEET new people.

Where and how is really up to your own personal preference. Myself - I hate pubs and clubs, so would never rely on those venues as a means of meeting a potential partner. On the other hand, perhaps you like those kinds of place. If so, great! Just be sure you go to a place that is likely to attract the kind of people you want to meet.

If you're a lady looking for an educated intellectual kind of guy (like one friend of mine), then you probably won't meet him at a rough pub where the blue collar workers hang out all evening drinking and smoking themselves silly. Go to an upmarket place that will attract the kind of person/s you want to meet.

My personal favourite is online (or Internet) dating. I have done nearly all my dating via this medium in the last 3 years, and with several exceptions, I have found it to be a brilliant way to meet women without having to do the pub/club crawl.

Join a social group, take up a sport or a hobby where you can meet prospective partners. Get into a book club, or photography, or whatever. There are so many choices to pick from - you're bound to find one option that appeals to you.

If you don't get out there to meet new people, you'll NEVER meet the partner of your dreams, so get off your butt and go out - and remember to have fun, whatever you choose to do.

6) Understand The Dynamics of The First date.

Most of the mistakes are made in the first date, which usually means there isn't a 2nd date!

Here's a few I have made, or learned about the hard way:

Remember the K.I.S.S. principle (Keep It Simple Stupid). Make the first date something simple, like meeting for a coffee for 1 hour. That way, if they turn out to be the date from hell (or they think you are!), then either of you can do a runner quickly, without being locked into something drastic.

Guys, it may be an old-world gentlemanly tradition, but resist the temptation to take a lady out to a fancy restaurant and buy her expensive flowers/gifts on the first date. K.I.S.S. - Trust me on this one.

Ladies, if a guy is a gentleman and doesn't follow my instructions then at least have the good manners to thank him for a lovely night, and for paying for the meal, etc. I'm consistently amazed at how often that does not happen. It doesn't matter whether you want to see him or not - just show some manners. Actually, this equally applies to guys who are taken on dates by their lady.

NEVER, under any circumstances, have sex on the first date (men or women)! Trust me when I say that if a serious relationship with the partner of your dreams is your chief goal, then leave the sex until a little later. Don't let lust cloud your judgement, because it only ever leads to grief. A kiss goodbye is fine though...

Understand that the true objective of the first "date" is NOT to meet the partner of your dreams, but to decide if you like this person enough (and they feel the same about you) to meet again for a 2nd date. Keep things fun and casual - enjoy yourself, because even if you don't fall in love, you may make a new best friend!

You don't fall in love on the first date, no matter how stunningly attractive your date is - AND - if you do think you have fallen in love on the first date, it's actually lust. A complex series of chemical reactions and mental/emotional connections is what makes you THINK you are in love. Trust me when I tell you it's not love. Love takes time to develop and is totally worth the time and effort.

7) SWSWSW Next!

Bet you're wondering what the heck this means?!?!?!

Simple - it stands for "Some Will, Some Won't, So What. Next!"

It's the attitude you NEED to keep foremost in your mind when you start dating, because I can GUARANTEE you are going to hit some snags along the journey. And, when you hit those snags (and one day I probably will write a book about the snags I hit over the years), then you NEED something aside from pure willpower to keep you going.

What does SWSWSW actually mean? Simply, it means some of the prospective partners you meet will be good candidates, and hopefully one of them will even turn into the partner of your dreams... and some of them won't be good candidates! The key is, when they are a NO, you have to take the attitude of "So What!", and move onto the next prospective candidate (Next!).

My favourite saying to myself AND my friends when they have been out there dating is: "You only need to meet ONE right person! All the rest don't matter..."

If that's the case, then you should keep in mind that some of the people you chat to, email with, or even meet for a date, will turn out to be NOT RIGHT FOR YOU! Pick yourself up off the floor, dust yourself down, and move on to the next one. At the end of the day, it's the only way to keep sane when things seem like they are going downhill faster than an anvil falling from 20,000 ft!

It's one of the things that allowed me to recover from the devastation I felt when the relationship I had with the lady that I thought was "the one" unexpectedly fell in a heap on the floor six months after we met and fell in love.

It's the only thing that kept my friend going when the guy she started dating turned out to be gay!
Remember, you CAN recover from it, so just keep on keeping on, and remember SWSWSW Next!, and you'll be a relationship winner in time.

8) Do's and Don'ts of Winning That Someone Special.

By itself, this topic could take up a 20 chapter book and probably still require more content, but we don't have that much space, so here's some killers I can personally vouch for.

Be honest. Nothing gets a prospective partner annoyed with you faster than dishonesty. Don't tell them over the phone that you are 30, fit & athletic and good looking if you are 43, out of shape and definitely NOT attractive. Likewise, don't tell them you are a non-smoker if you do smoke, etc.

Don't be desperate. There is ALWAYS another person for you to meet. ALWAYS someone who could be as good a partner as the one you are checking out now. So, don't gush all over them on day 1, and tell them you love them on day 2, or ask them when they would like to meet your family and friends on day 3. 1 step at a time, tiger... Nothing puts a prospective partner off like desperation - it's about as sexy as hemorrhoids.

Don't spend all the time talking about yourself. Ask them questions about themselves and LISTEN to their answers. People LIKE people who want to know about them, as opposed to telling someone all about themselves. Don't be so self-indulgent that you dominate the conversation with your self centred anecdotes, because all you'll do is show yourself to be egotistical and/or having a really poor self image. Neither trait is attractive. The classic Dale Carnegie self-help book "How To Win Friends And Influence People" is brilliant for giving you some good ideas on how to do this well.

9) Learn About Yourself And What Makes Relationships Work.

I will make you a promise right here and now, even though I don't know you, and I guarantee you that I will be 100% correct every time!

That promise is this: Most of the problems you have in any relationship will be because of hidden baggage in your head and/or your partner's head... AND, the only way to deal with these problems is to communicate openly (see the next point) and help each other deal with these issues.

The worst part of this is that USUALLY you or your partner will not be fully aware of these hidden "relationship landmines", but you will keep stepping on each other's mines over time, and if there's one thing that's guaranteed to destroy a relationship, it's fighting and dissatisfaction with each other, which is the typical outcome of exploding relationship landmines.

In my opinion, one of the very BEST books you could ever read on this subject, as a way to help you understand what makes you and your partner tick is: "Keeping The Love You Find - A Single Person's Guide To Achieving Lasting Love" by Dr. Harville Hendrix.

This book was a life saver for me when my above-mentioned relationship broke up. It helped me understand WHY this happened and what I brought to the relationship that helped cause it, and what my then-partner brought to it that also caused it to collapse.

Dr Hendrix has also written a similar book for Couples - I haven't read that yet (but did give a copy of it as a wedding present!), but if it's half as good as this one was, I recommend all couples buy it and read it together.

No, I don't know Dr Hendrix, but what I do know is that this book made a huge difference in my life, and if it helps even one other person like it helped me, then it will have been worthwhile telling you about it.

10) Communication Makes It All Work.

This last point is really the BIG ONE (!) that can make or break a relationship.

You see, without open and honest communication between 2 people in a relationship, the chances of that relationship lasting and both people being happy and fulfilled in it is a big FAT ZERO!!!

The real challenge is that communication is NOT easy for some people. They don't like discussing their feelings and thoughts, especially if they feel those topics will bring up strong emotional feelings of pain or discomfort for them.

Even though I consider myself a good communicator, I have also learned to my detriment that I needed some more work there in past relationships. One of my personal weaknesses is a strong dislike of confrontation and telling my partner when I am not happy about something they have said or done. There's a hidden psychological reason for why I act this way (something I have identified), but at the end of the day, it gets in the road of a powerful self-expressed relationship.

Every single person out there has an issue (or more than one) hidden below the surface, and until we can identify that issue, we can't deal with it. However, if this issue causes a problem within a relationship, then you will need to learn to communicate with your partner in an open and honest manner, in order to help them understand why you say and do the things you do.

Understanding the issue is the first step to dealing with these hidden problems, and that comes from communication between two people. If one partner is NOT open to communication, you'll eventually find the relationship will NOT work, so choose carefully when it comes to picking your dream partner. An open honest communicator is much more important that someone who looks good or is rich, etc.

Get help if you have problems with communication. There are PLENTY of great resources available, via book, tape, seminar, therapy and on the Internet. Just remember that no matter how strong the pain is, it will be far worse if you don't deal with the issue at the root of this, and that will require you to be a great communicator (luckily, this is a learned skill and anyone can learn it!)

OK, well I hope these 10 tips help you find the partner of your dreams. Being in love is special and something I wish for ALL of my readers. All the best for that next date, and remember... SWSWSW Next! :)

The Secret To A Successful First Date

From Christope Y,

When it comes to meeting a woman you met online in person, chances are you're going to screw it up if you don't know how to handle real "live dates."

Sure it was easy emailing back and forth as you hide behind a keyboard. There's no way to get rejected because she doesn't really know who you are. You could invent a totally different persona and she wouldn't know any better.

But eventually you're going to HAVE to meet her in person! That is the whole point of meeting women online. Right?

Now it doesn't have to be a nerve wracking experience and if you follow my advice then you'll have no reason to be nervous at all. The key here is framing it as a casual get together with friends and not some formal, professional interview.

I'm going to assume you've been to a few job interviews in your lifetime and I'm sure you'll agree with me that they're NOT fun at all! You have to worry about what suit to wear, what to say, and how to conduct yourself in the best possible manner.

Who needs all that FRICKIN pressure?

Well first meets off the internet are not necessarily about promoting yourself or trying to "impress" her. They're about making sure that rockin chemistry you built up during email exchanges is still there in person. In a sense you need to screen her and make sure she's a suitable partner for you!


You know what that makes you?

It makes you the interviewer and shifts all the pressure to her. And now you can kick back and have some fun.

If you're able to frame first meets like that, then there's NO reason to ever be nervous.
Now a lot of guys ask me;

What do I talk about during a first date?

I get this question ALL THE TIME and it implies that there's this one magical conversation that will make her fall for you instantly and want to see you again and AGAIN!

Well guess what?

That magical conversation DOES NOT EXIST!

It's not what you talk about but rather how you communicate that's important during a first meet.

I've said it over and over and I'll say it again... women are emotional creatures and therefore respond more to - you guessed it - Emotions!


That's why how you communicate is so much more important than simply what subjects you bring up. You want to communicate with confidence and show her that this whole first date thing is "no big deal." Being humorous is the BEST way to do this as it shows you don't take dating women too seriously.

Which of course shows confidence and RAISES your value.

Another way to communicate effectively is to think of it, (as I mentioned above) as a friendly casual meet up with a friend.

Let me ask you... when you get together with some buddies, are you nervous and worried about what to say?

Of course not! You never get nervous around friends because you're already acquainted and know each other really well.

The same holds true with women you meet off the Internet. You already know each other because you corresponded in emails and texts and if you did that right, the attraction should be established.

So there's no reason to be nervous, right?

Now get out there and use these tips to dominate that first date and I GUARANTEE she'll be wanting more of YOU!

4 Tips to Choosing the Perfect Profile Photo For a Free Dating Site

From Ingrid Margaret,

One of the most important aspects of being successful on a free dating site is developing an attention-getting profile. Of course, the main ingredient for any effective profile is a stunning photograph. Below are some tips that will help you choose the best profile for your free dating site profile.

Professional or Personal

When you are selecting a photo for your free dating site, the first step is to decide whether you want a professionally taken picture or one you've taken yourself or that was taken by someone else you know. The biggest factor is your preference.

While you'll have to pay good money for quality photos from a professional, you will benefit from their lighting expertise and their ability to shoot you in the best possible angle. However, personal photographs are typically more natural and allow more of your personality to seep through.

Regardless of which choice you make, do not resort to those professionals who will "glamourize" you for the photo shoot. You want to look as natural as possible.

Background Considerations

When you are choosing a photo for your free dating site profile, you also need to keep in mind the background of any shots you consider using. Remember that your safety should be a top priority, so don't take any photographs that might give away your location, including the names of schools, landmarks, or anything similar.

You also don't want to pick photographs that include other people, even parts of other people. For one, you should never publicize someone's photograph without their permission. More importantly, you don't want to distract viewers from your image. This is a good reason why you should take new pictures instead of relying on old ones.

Pick Recent Photographs

One of the biggest ways people stretch the photographic truth on a free dating site is by posting out-of-date photos. When nothing in the background can give away the time of the photo, you may be able to fool a possible respondent with a ten year old photograph. However, you won't be able to fool that person when you meet offline. If you are serious about having a relationship outside of the Internet, you need to choose photographs that show what you look like today even if that means sharing a few of your flaws, such as a few extra pounds or a receding hair line.

Limit Yourself

Although many profiles at a free dating site will let you upload a large number of photographs, you want to stick to only a couple. The maximum you use should always be around three. If you want people to see more images of you, direct them to a personal web site. You should consider a head shot (from the shoulders up) for your profile's main image. Choose a full-length image for one of your other photographs and use the other to show off something you enjoy doing, such as golfing or collecting movies.

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Find Your Soul-Mate Using Free Dating Sites

From Puja Rai,

When it comes to finding the one to spend the rest of your life with, different people opt for different options. While some of us start looking for a suitable companion through the help of our friends, some of us resort to professional matchmakers.

However, with the internet in place a lot of things about human existence has changed forever with one of the most notable mentions being dating.

With the emergence of dating sites free, now you can find a suitable companion to share your life with without having to pay professional matchmakers or relying on the help of your friends.

As the internet gained global presence, more people have started using this incredible global communication platform. In fact, if stats are to be believed, dating sites free have already helped a large number of people in finding suitable options for dating.

With the help of any web search engine such as Google, you can find numerous websites dedicated to dating and find a suitable companion from the comfort of wherever you are.

Thanks to these websites, the need for you to invest huge amounts of time and money in order to find a suitable date has become a thing of the past.

With the help of dating sites free, you will be able to experience an ideal way of finding a suitable companion. Once you have found suitable dating websites, you can simply create your public profile and furnish the details for the kind of match you are looking for.

Owed to the extensiveness of the users registered with such websites, you will easily find numerous suitable matches regardless of the prerequisites you may have.

Hence, it is safe to say that such websites promise to be a great platform for people from all parts of the world to find a suitable match for dating.

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Now, although it is beyond a shadow of doubt that dating sites free can prove to be extremely helpful in letting you find a suitable companion; however, it is extremely important that you be sure about the efficacy of the dating website you have chosen before going ahead with the registration.

Hence, always remember to check the testimonials the website has received from its members. Furthermore, some websites have started charging for the online dating services they offer; however, with the option of free websites, there is no point in making any investment.

Online Dating Profile Writing Tips: How to Select the Best Photos for Your Singles Site Profile

From April Braswel,

In the early days of computer dating singles really were pursuing blind dates via the web. In the first days of website dating singles couldn't post dating profile photographs.

What was the problem?

The early cyber-dating matchmaking websites didn't have the technological capability to allow singles there to upload, post, and share digital photos.

Singles had to rely exclusively on their verbal descriptions to communicate their appearances to each other.

Then singles had to take physical photographs of each other and take them to a store that had the machines to scan the photos and convert them specifically to a digital format. The stores then saved the digital photograph files to a CD which you could take home with you to upload at the singles websites via your computer.

It was a very lengthy and cumbersome method to taking and sharing photos of yourself online with prospective dates at the singles sites. The process for photo sharing once the photograph feature was so laborious that many singles simply didn't bother.

It wasn't until the days of the early 21st century when digital cameras became affordable and common place that posting photos in singles' profiles really took off at the dating sites.

Once posting and sharing at the internet dating sites became the new baseline normal practice then singles took to posting tons of photographs online.

Many of the online dating sites have the option for singles to post not only a few photographs of themselves but also photo albums.

Now all too many singles have fallen into the habit of posting loads of their photos at the dating websites.

When you have a number of digital photos collected, then you have the option to pick and choose your best photos to display you looking great.

What to look for in your dating photos for your singles site profile:

1. Do select internet dating profile photos that frame your face.
2. Do choose internet personal ads photos that accentuate your eyes.
3. Do select online dating profile photographs which emphasize your wonderful smile.

Because of the casual preponderance of digital cameras to capture every moment of our lives and share them online on the web easily with others, all too many singles are including photographs of themselves what might be described as artistic, goofy, or unwise photos.

The goofy photos you want to avoid selecting to include in your online dating profile include those displaying you in a ridiculous facial expression.

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The artistic photographs to refrain from including in your internet matchmaking profile include your poetic view of life. Please omit photos of ducks walking down the street or sunset photographs. Only include photographs of you in your internet personal ad profile.

When you know what to emphasize in your dating profile photos and what to exclude, you massively increase your singles site profile responsiveness. That leads to more first dates. And a great first date leads to more second dates, and who know what could happen from there?

It's Too Much Pressure! AAAAAAARGH!

From Jhonny Corrz,



Online dating should be fun right? You’re there, at home, listening to good music, browsing the web, and searching for a single man that matches your concept of perfect partner. But then you get popular, and everyone starts to send you e-mails and winks and scraps and whatever the dating service offers in terms of communication.

And all of a sudden you start to go completely nuts, trying to answer all those guys, but there’s no time, because you have lots of other things to take care of, but you can’t let all those potential loves of your life down and then you just go “aaaaaaaaaargh”.

Yes, there’s a lot of pressure and stress in online dating. Especially if you let it take control of your life. Some women deal with stress quite well, and have their own ways of relieving the tension. But some other girls break easily under the pressure of meeting other people and flirting with them. In online dating, this pressure can be even worse since there are “oh, so many options!”

Well, if you feel this online dating thing is starting to get on your nerves, there are a few things you can do to acquire that sense of control and accomplishment that some people are born with.

The first one is getting away of your PC once in a while. Not to look for romance, because you already do it when you’re online, but to surround yourself with people or things you enjoy. If possible, try to surround yourself with both, a few times a week.

Take it easy on the chocolate. Coffee, soft drinks and power drinks should be avoided too. Stimulants cause anxiety, and anxiety is the mother of stress. Try eating other types of sweets, like a pudding or a good piece of apple pie. Researchers have found that stress levels go down when we consume sugar.

Put a few fun objects by your computer. Toys, puzzles, magazines and other objects will give you something physical to do and distract you a little from what’s going on inside the computer screen. Photos, movie posters, flowers, or any other thing you may like to look at will help you feel more comfortable, giving you that “this is my space” feeling.

If there’s something you don’t like, do it first. Saving the best for last is a good way to avoid stress. It’s because you start to see the things you do with pleasure under a new light. They will turn into a reward for all the hard work you’ve done earlier. And only start talking to your special someone once you’ve got rid of work, otherwise you won’t be able to give your honey bug the proper attention.

Exercise a little, if you have the time. Nothing dramatic, really. Just go for a walk or something like that. If you can’t get too far from your PC, just get up a little. Stand up for ten minutes or so, take a few deep breaths, take a shower, etc. Just “shake your booty” a little bit, and you’ll see you’ll really “like to move it, move it”. Besides, it will also reduce your stress dramatically.

Vitamin C is also very relaxing, because it reduces the production of stress hormones. Eat an orange, drink some orange juice, take a 200 mg. supplement, or eat other foods rich in vitamin C, like broccoli, cabbage, cauliflower, tomatoes, peppers, potatoes, strawberries, grapefruit and cantaloupe. Heck, you should feel free to snack while online.

Put on some good music. If you like slow tunes, then that will be even more effective. Sing along, if you feel like. It doesn’t matter if your voice sucks. Singing relaxes the body and is also a great breathing exercise. You get two for the price of one.

And finally, do not, ever, under any circumstance, for no reason whatsoever, multi-task! Just stop multi-tasking right away! Too many balls in the air will make you dizzy and stress you out.

When you’re dating online, it’s important that you give your man all the attention possible. So, try talking to one guy at a time and focus on the conversation. Your potential dream guy will be very pleased. And so will you.

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